Not Today, Narcissist: 3 Tricks to Take Back Your Power

Not Today, Narcissist: 3 Tricks to Take Back Your Power

We’ve all met one. The self-obsessed drama king or queen who thinks the world revolves around them. A narcissist can charm the pants off you one minute and leave you questioning your sanity the next. They’re the human version of glitter — they stick to you, they’re everywhere, and once they’re in your life, good luck getting rid of them. They strut around like they own the planet, take what they want without blinking, and the only give back if it somehow makes them look good. Charming, right?

These people? They’re not just hard to deal with — they’re toxic waste in human form. Their ego drives the bus, and that bus is heading straight off a cliff… with you in the passenger seat if you’re not careful. Romantic partner, friend, co-worker, family member — doesn’t matter. If you’re tied up with a narcissist, you’re living on a diet of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional whiplash.

But here’s the good news: you don’t have to play their twisted little games. In fact, you can flip the script. Today I’m giving you three simple, savage tricks that will stop a narcissist in their tracks and put you back in the driver’s seat. Because let’s be real — it’s time to say: Not today, Narcissist.

I should know. I’m an empath who spent years people-pleasing myself into emotional exhaustion. And like a moth to a flame (or, let’s be honest, like a sucker to a con artist), I attracted narcissists left and right. It wasn’t until I finally connected the dots that I realized: ohhhh, this is a cycle. A really crappy, soul-sucking cycle.

Here’s the kicker: narcissists don’t come in screaming “Hi, I’m here to destroy your self-worth!” No. They're covert. They show up charming, magnetic, and dripping in charisma. They know how to hook someone who lacks boundaries. And once you’re in? Boom. The mask slips. Cue the gaslighting, manipulation, and blame-shifting. Suddenly, you’re questioning if you’re the problem. Spoiler alert: you’re not.

So, how the heck do you deal with them?

First off, let me give it to you straight: you can't fix them. You can't reason with them. You can't love them into being a decent human being. They are allergic to accountability and empathy. They’ll twist every conversation until you feel like you owe them an apology. And if you’re waiting on a heartfelt “I’m sorry”? Yeah… might as well wait for pigs to grow wings and open a Starbucks franchise.

Your best move? Run. Block, delete, vanish. If you can cut ties — cut them all the way. Don’t soft-block, don’t leave the door cracked. Slam the door, lock it, and throw away the key.

But what if you can’t run? What if the narcissist is your sibling, your parent, your ex you share kids with? Then you’re going to need some serious survival tactics:

1. Don’t React

Think of their tantrums like a toddler throwing themselves on the floor at Walmart. Your power move? Stay calm, stay silent, stay stone-faced. Don’t feed their drama. Narcissists feast on your emotional reactions — starve them.

2. Respond Without Emotion

When you do have to respond, keep it short and boring. One sentence max. Think: “Noted.” “Thanks.” That’s it. Don’t overexplain, don’t pour your heart out. It’s like reasoning with a brick wall — only less productive, because at least the wall doesn’t insult you for expressing yourself.

3. Use Their Ego Against Them

If contact is unavoidable, sprinkle in just enough neutral politeness to keep the peace. Lines like, “I appreciate your time” or “Thanks for your input” work. Don’t over-flatter — just keep it short, sweet, and soulless. You’re not feeding their ego; you’re throwing them a stale cracker and walking away.

Above all else, here’s what you must remember: a narcissist doesn’t value you. They value what you give them — attention, energy, supply. When you stop providing it, they’ll panic. They’ll stalk, chase, love-bomb, and try every trick in the book to reel you back in. Do. Not. Fall. For. It. That’s not love; that’s desperation.

The only real win here is freedom. Freedom from their circus, their games, their endless cycle of drama. Healing takes time, but once you break free, you’ll never look at a narcissist the same way again. You’ll spot them a mile away, roll your eyes, and say, “Not today, Satan.”

So let me ask you this: what’s your narcissist story? Drop it in the comments — because trust me, sharing it will feel like taking back a piece of your power.